When nothing fits


Dress: F21 (similar) | Cardigan: American Eagle (similar) | Belt: F21 (similar) | Shoes: Nine West (on sale!) | Earrings: Rachel Roy | Bracelets: Loft

I grew into my body in high school, making quite the dramatic change, and during the past few years my curves have really filled out. However, it wasn’t until recently that I began noticing my clothes weren’t fitting how they used to.

My favorite pieces were pulling all across my hips and bust creating frustration and a whole lot of self consciousness in regard to my body. I admitted defeat when I attempted to pull on a pair of denim ankle crops that succeeded only in making it up to my knees before refusing to inch up my legs any further. And finally, while searching for the perfect item for today’s outfit post, I had to come face to face with the fact that nearly half of my dresses (the prized possessions of my wardrobe) no longer fit me.

Now, I’m not going to lie to you here. I love my body and I’m blessed to be able to create an hour glass silhouette given the right pieces, but I’d be lying if I told you this experience didn’t upset me a little bit. Trying on dress after dress only to discover they wouldn’t glide effortlessly past my hips like they used to was painful for me. It’s one thing to go shopping and have nothing fit, it’s an entirely different thing to have this same exact experience occur in your own closet full of clothes you love and rely on.

At this point you’re probably thinking, “What a sob story,” but it was in this moment of fashion frustration that I remembered something very important. I remembered not to let a too-tight dress or too-small pant get me down, because you don’t have to be stick skinny to be a fabulous fashionista, just like you don’t have to force your way into a size 6 when in reality you look just as fantastic in a size 10. Sure, we may gain a couple pounds and change dress sizes as we age, but size simply doesn’t matter. So forget about size, buy what fits, and own each look no matter your body type!

What challenges have you faced when learning how to dress for your body type? How did you overcome them?

76 thoughts on “When nothing fits

  1. Susie

    It’s so easy to feel like you’ve gotta force yourself into the smallest possible size, when in the end the bigger size looks better – I’ve definitely had this experience before! You look gorgeous in these pics – looks like this dress fits fabulously.

    Sea and Swank

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      SO true! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve tried to force my way into a smaller size when I would have had much better look sucking it up and getting a bigger size. Thanks for the compliment and yes I am thankful this dress still fits..it’s one of my favorites. 🙂

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  2. Megan

    You look awesome and I LOVE this dress. I hate that feeling when something you have worn forever suddenly doesn’t fit (happened with me and my jeans recently which I actually talked about today – great minds think alike!). I definitely agree with you, size doesn’t matter, it’s how you dress your body. And the confidence you have in the clothes 🙂

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      Megan, thank you so so much! It’s a great dress and perfect for the weather right now. I hate that feeling too and it’s happening with my jeans in addition to my dresses. I’ll have to go check out your post! And you’re right, if you have confidence and know how to dress your body that’s all that matters.

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  3. lffashionable

    You’re right on point! My size fluctuates frequently. I’ve learned to keep a variety of sizes in my closet. If something is too small that day I pick something else in a size up. It helps me to know that there is always something available that I will feel confident in.

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      That’s a super good idea! Knowing you’ve always got backups for those days when your size is going back and forth would definitely help with confidence and eliminate these nothing fits days. Thanks for reading!

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      True! It was hard for me at first because I felt like I needed to fit in smaller sizes, but now I’ve gotten over that and I’m so much happier! Sure, we all still have days where things don’t fit or we’re just feeling blah, but I’ve finally learned to embrace my shape and buy what fits.

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  4. Style Journey

    You look great in this dress! Love the belt paired with it too.

    As you get older your body definitely changes. Mine totally changed after two kids, but I learned to accept it. Don’t look at sizes, go for what you feel good in. And confidence is always your best accessory 🙂 Heather

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  5. livinglearningeating

    You look GORGEOUS! Your body changes a lot when you’re young, then huge changes in puberty, then again in the late teens, and again in the mid-twenties (and so on, and so forth). You have a beautiful figure, you look really healthy with glowing skin and smooth toned legs, and you rock it! Plus, now it’s an excuse to go shopping some more 🙂 My biggest body hang up is my flat chest and that I don’t really have that small-waist-to-big-hips shape a lot of girls have. I’m not going to lie – sometimes I wish it were otherwise. But most of the time I love my body! It keeps me alive and doing what I want to do 🙂 Besides, confidence is what makes beauty.

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      Thank you! And so true…we go through oh so many changes when it comes to our bodies. I think we all have little things we’d change about our bodies but the most important thing is being confident despite that, and being comfortable in our own skin (its ok to be a little nit picky sometimes). Thanks for your sweet comments, they are so appreciated!

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  6. albucco10

    Kudos for finding such a gorgeous dress at Forever 21!! Sometimes I find it so hard to snag good buys there. I definitely agree–sometimes shopping (or trying on clothes) gets you down. I know I’ve definitely let a too-tight shirt or skirt ruin my day. The most important thing is you wear everything with confidence, which makes you feel as great as you look (which you DO look great!!). That goes way way further than any silly number!

    xo,
    Alyssa
    The Glossy Life

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      It’s always hit or miss…sometimes there’s a ton of cute things, sometimes I can’t find anything. I’ve definitely let clothes not fitting ruin my day too and had quite a few pity parties, but I always come to my senses and find my confidence. Besides I have plenty of items in my wardrobe that DO fit and flatter…sometimes I just have to man up and say a tearful goodbye to the pieces that don’t. Thanks for reading! 🙂

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  7. Jennifer

    I adore the yellow dress and the yellow and white stripe top you had on with the red skirt! I have never had anything yellow in my wardrobe but you make it look great, especially with the FL tan. I love your blog and you look amazing!

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  8. Danielle

    I hate that, but sometimes if can be a good motivator to get in shape. Great attitude though! Are you also guilty of buying something a little small and saying “I am going to fit into this soon!” FF six months later and it’s never been worn and still too small? *looks around* haha

    http://www.danielleisms.com

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      Haha yes I am totally guilty of that!! Especially with blazers..sometimes they are a bit snug in the arms but perfect everywhere else so I buy the smaller size and then wonder why I never wear them. Just checked out your new vid, it was amazing! Definitely trying the Mila Kunis look asap 🙂

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  9. Rachel @ Making Life Fabulous

    You look beautiful Stephanie! The most important thing is that you are confident and fabulous just the way you are! So long as you are at a place that is healthy for you, you don’t have anything to worry about. Have a fantastic weekend!

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  10. anita

    Love your outfit! I usually avoid F21 but I’m getting second thoughts here. And you’re right, girls should learn to embrace and flaunt their curves! I don’t know why some people fancy looking like a stick.

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      Thanks Anita! F21 can definitely be a little overwhelming especially if you go to one that’s a little messy and disorganized. But now, I shop there all the time and I always end up finding great things at prices that can’t be beat…hope you’ll give it another try 🙂 Thanks for reading and yes, curves should be flaunted they are a great thing!

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  11. Jessica

    yes they were a diy! and fairly simple! i thought about doing a post but i felt like a lot of people had done similar ones…i love this post! you have a great body and while i understand how your experience could be frustrating i am glad to see you turn it into a positive experience! no matter what size you are there are different things everybody battles with when trying clothes on so it is important to keep that in my mind and find what works for you!

    -Jessica
    http://www.jumpintopuddles.com

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      Aw you should totally do a post…I’d love to see how its done! Everyone struggles with their own wardrobe issues no matter what size, you are definitely right about that, but it’s learning to love your body and finding how to dress it that makes all the difference!

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  12. sharon lei

    Girl, you are amazing and gorgeous. I embrace my curves. I love it. Sure, there are days I wish I could still fit into my size 4 jeans, but I’m just as happy (if not more happy, since I eat more now than I did when I was a 4! lol) at a size 10. 🙂

    I love this dress on you. I saw it at F21, but didn’t even bother to try it on. Now, I’m regretting it. hee hee.

    Hope you’re doing fabulously… come swing by to enter my Alainn Bella giveaway!

    xx Love & Aloha
    http://elisharon.blogspot.com

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      Thanks for reading! It’s a great dress…I was in love when I saw it because the neon green color was my color of the moment. I couldn’t find it in my size at first but I scoured the store and was glad I did 🙂 Thanks for the sweet comments!

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  13. Mary Ann

    You’re right, all body types are beautiful! But I certainly understand the “hippy” frustration as I deal with it, too. Usually, I buy things to fit my hips and take them in at the waist, or I check seam allowances to see if I can let out the hips. These alterations may help you, too! 😉

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  14. crazystylelove

    You look truly fabulous and it’s so great that you have accepted your body, because so many people can never do that. My weight fluctuates all of the time. At all times I have pieces in my closet that don’t fit me. One day they fit, the next they are too tight or too loose. Okay, it might not happen that quickly but it happens every few months. Right now, I’m a little heavier than last summer so a lot of my summer skirts are too tight across my hips. It’s really annoying because we are heading into winter now, and soon I won’t be able to wear them the way I want to. Oh well, I’m sure next summer they will fit. I guess those are the joys of being a woman.

    xo Jenny
    http://www.crazystylelove.com

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      Thank you Jenny, that means a lot! Summer is the season when I notice things not fitting the most, I can hardly ever fit into my skirts and shorts from previous years and always have to end up buying new things. And true, size fluctuation is one of the many many endless joys of womanhood!

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      Haha, I have been getting that a LOT, nobody can believe its an F21 find! I have to admit it’s one of the best pieces I’ve ever found there 🙂 Heading over to your blog to check it out, thank you for reading!

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  15. sidesmile style

    I can completely relate! My torso is long, like ridiculously long. When I sit down next to my 6’3 dad, it looks like I’m as tall as him…I’m 5’8 haha. I will probably never stop getting annoyed that dresses are almost always too short on me, but at least I have some really cute skirts 🙂

    xo SideSmile,
    Ashley

    SideSmile Style Blog

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      Everyone has their own personal thing they struggle with when it comes to style. It can be so frustrating, but glad to hear you make the best of the situation 🙂 Thanks for reading!

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  16. sheree0819

    I just bought a similar dress today except it has neon green underneath..love it!
    I started weight training at 19 and it totally changed my body! It also was nice having that muscle memory after my two kids also. I don’t care how skinny I am I care how fit am!
    Sheree x
    http://www.itsnotthatdeep.com

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