The “if I just lose 10 pounds” pants

Yesterday, I committed fashion sin: I wore pants a full size too small for me. You know, the pants you manage to squeeze into while thinking to yourself, “once I lose 10 pounds these are going to fit me perfectly!” Do I hear you nodding? For me, the pants are light brown skinny cargos I picked up at Loft about 2 years ago on the clearance rack. They go with absolutelyΒ everything….except my body.

The process of putting on the pants goes something like this: I start by jumping up and down while pulling on the belt loops until they magically make it past my hips. Next, I inhale deeply, hold my breath and attempt to fasten the button. Don’t even get me started on the zipper, I’m 99% positiveΒ 100% sure it never quite zips all the way so I solve this problem by wearing long shirts. After a good 5 minutes, I usually do some lunges as an attempt to stretch the pants (this does not work) and make them fit. Unfortunately for me, these pants are not part of any sisterhood and while they may magically fit someone else (like someone who is in fact a size 4), the “magic” definitely doesn’t work on me.

You see, this is one of the aspects of growing up that people always tell you about, but you always somehow feel immune to. If you sneak through college without gaining the infamous “freshman 15” then you somehow allow yourself to believe you’ve completely by-passed that part of life. Then a couple years down the road you’re shocked and devastated to find that those 15 pounds somehow found you anyway.

After a full day of wearing the pants, I was blue in the face from holding my breath and unable to sit down comfortably. I realized I’d sacrificed my comfort because I was attached to the old version of myself whoΒ did fit in those pants once, and I wasn’t ready to let go her yet. So I sucked in my stomach, wasted 5 minutes putting them on and spent a whole day in pants that made me miserable. It took only that day to realize I was ready to let them go, because no pants are worth all that work. At the end of the day, I just wanted my perfect-fitting, curve-hugging, comfortable size 6 pants. Happy to see pants I owned in my actual size, I tucked the ill-fitting pants away in a box to donate and reminded myself that I’ll always love me, no matter my size, and no pants can ever take that away from me.

PS – I’m super excited to be feature on Alyssa’s blog, The Glossy Life, today as part of her “it” girl series. Her blog is one of my absolute favorites and is one of my daily reads. Make sure to check out the post HERE. πŸ™‚

38 thoughts on “The “if I just lose 10 pounds” pants

  1. albucco10

    I love this, Stephanie! I think we’ve all had the jumping around the room/lunging moment to get into an old favorite pair–or in my case, the roll on the bed/squat technique. I’ve done this with pants that used to be my favorites but somehow “shrunk” between freshman and sophomore year of college (at least that’s what I was telling myself). It becomes a huuuugggeee insult that these pants would do me the disservice of no longer fitting me–how dare they! That was also back when I was really attached to a number–if I wasn’t a size two or four in something, there was no way I was buying it. Now, thankfully, I’ve become much more realistic. I realize that there’s no point in holding yourself to a number because it really means NOTHING, especially when clothes these days vary so vastly across the board. I’m more happy if I find something that flatters me, no matter the size! Thanks for another awesome post! xo

    -Alyssa
    The Glossy Life

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      Haha yes, we have ALL been there whether we care to admit it or not! I try to tell myself it was the dryer’s fault too, you’re not alone in that one. I’ve learned the same thing, size doesn’t really matter at all, it’s about buying what fits and flatters no matter the size!

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  2. how bout some cake

    Oh man, this hits home so hard with me. No joke, I’ve actually slept in jeans the night before I wanted/needed to wear them so that they’d be stretched out a little. That was high school. Now I (mostly) wear clothes that fit. So much better!

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      Oh my goodness!! I’m much better now also, and totally realize it’s time for a wardrobe purge. I am committing to getting rid of absolutely everything that doesn’t fit me this weekend! Thanks for reading. πŸ™‚

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  3. crazystylelove

    Ha ha, you took the words right out of my mouth!! I’ve done the exact same thing on many, many occasions. My adult weight arrived when I hit turned 28, only it wasn’t the freshman 15. . .it was the senior 20. It’s crazy how much your body changes every year as you age. I still sometimes buy pieces that are just slightly too small thinking I need to lose another 5 lbs anyways, so this will fit me in a few months. Boy, am I always wrong, and really need to learn my lesson.

    xo Jenny
    http://www.crazystylelove.com

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      I am with you, I do the same exact thing! Sometimes I buy something even though it’s a bit small thinking that I’ll somehow magically lose weight (I say magically because let’s be real, I hate the gym) and then those clothes will fit. I’m trying to be better about only buying things if they fit me well, no weight loss needed!

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      I do the same thing!! It is ridiculous and I need to stop it. And thank you SO much, I am so happy to hear you enjoy reading and you express yourself great in English! I am a big fan of your blog also, I always love reading and seeing your outfits πŸ™‚

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  4. Amy Shaughnessy

    I love this! I think I am still trying to hang on to the 20 something year old girl who hadn’t had babies yet. I’m older and my body has changed after having 2 kids. I think I am WAY too hard on myself and I should be happy with what I have. I guess it can always be a lot worse!

    Amy

    Fashion and Beauty Finds

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      We change so much as we age whether we like it or not, and while I like to hold onto the version of myself that was a size 4, I realize I might not ever be a size 4 again in my life even if I DID lose some weight! And you are totally right, it could always be worse. I’m trying my best to be the happiest I can be with what I’ve got…starting with clothes that fit!

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  5. Bibliophiled Away

    How serendipitous! I made the mistake of wearing too small pants today to work. The only thing getting me through the day is the reassurance that I have a door to close so I can partake in a pantsless lunch break;)

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  6. Jessica

    i don’t think i keep anything long enough to grow out of it…whether that is good or bad i don’t know hahah but i know what you mean, i managed to maintain my weight really up until recently which i am still maintaining it fine but it takes much more effort than when i was younger!

    -Jessica
    http://www.jumpintopuddles.com

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      Well props to you for being able to purge your wardrobe and get rid of the old stuff! I get emotionally attached to my clothes and think if I get rid of something then I’ll be wanting to wear it a year down the road or something crazy…I’m such a clothes hoarder sometimes. And you are spot on – maintaining body shape/weight is so much more difficult as we get older and our metabolisms start slowing down.

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  7. thestatestreetedit

    It took me a long time to get to the place of “wear what fits,” too. It’s amazing how much better you feel in your clothes when you feel like they look good. The only person who knows your “number” is you – and really, it doesn’t even matter that much to you, anyway! πŸ™‚ I love reading about body acceptance in the fashion blog world – great job, Stephanie! And I loved your post on Alyssa’s blog!

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  8. thehautecookie

    awe what a raw but very heartwarming and funny post. I think so, because we women- i hope i can speak for most of us- we can def relate. There’s always that SOMETHING that you wished you fit into better. You are obviously a beautiful person on the inside with a wonderful sense of humor i might add. I loved this post girl. xO!
    http://www.thehautecookie.com

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      That is definitely true – there will always be that pair of pants or dress that doesn’t fit quite right but we hang onto it, hopeful, anyway. Thank you for the sweet compliments!!

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  9. Sarah

    I still vary by about 8 pounds every few months or so, and as a consequence I am constantly trying to figure out whether I am on the thin/not thin part of the cycle, haha. But I have played that game before.

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  10. respect the shoes

    I wish I could give you a high five or hug or something, because I totally know what you mean. I went to school in NYC, so with doing sports and just walking everywhere, I never worried about gaining weight or watching what I ate. And now … office job, living in a city where I have to drive everywhere and a few years later – it ain’t quite the same!

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      Hahah I am glad I’m not alone in this!! πŸ™‚ I was the same way – in college I went to school in Pittsburgh but took the bus and walked everywhere. I ate like crap and somehow managed not to gain any weight and stayed essentially the same size as I was in high school. Now I have an office job and a car to drive places and even though I eat healthy, it was hard NOT to gain that extra weight!

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  11. Rachel @ Making Life Fabulous

    I love how honest you are, and know that you look amazing just the way you are! I’m bad about holding onto clothes that are either the wrong size, or super worn out, just because I loved them once upon a time! Then I have to remind myself to move on and make room for new fabulous things πŸ˜‰

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  12. longdistanceloving

    I understand in EVERY possible way! You crack me up. I really need to do a closet dump…but I’m not there yet πŸ˜‰ happy almost weekend! xoxo {av}

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  13. buchstabenchaos

    This is just so true! I did literally everything you’ve been writing about, the jumping, the lunges…but let’s face the truth, this is not working! I wonder if guys are having similar problems, but I guess not. I should really let go of the pieces in my closet that are not really fitting, but maybe I’ll lose some weight and…I’m just not ready to do this and I hate that! :/ Buying is easy, getting rid of stuff you’ll probably never really wear (or wear AND enjoy them at the same time) is incredible hard. It’s like saying goodbye to a slimmer, improved version of yourself that you’ll probably never become.

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    1. twenty-something Post author

      Haha I wish guys had similar problems, then they would understand what us ladies have to go through! What you said is so true, it is so easy to buy things but so much harder to let things go when they no longer fit or you don’t wear them. I recommend cleaning out your closet and letting go of the old stuff, then you can shop for things you love that fit and you’ll have a closet full of clothes that make you feel good!

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