There comes a time in every relationship where you must have a serious discussion, weighing the pros and cons of the commitment you’re about to make and eventually reaching a decision as a couple. No, I’m not talking about marriage or babies or moving in together, what I’m referring to is an entirely different monster: buying a puppy together.
John and I have had the idea of getting a dog in our heads for quite some time. Even before I moved we had discussed the option, but at that point we hadn’t given it much serious thought. Labor Day weekend rolled around and we suddenly found ourselves sitting in a restaurant discussing the pros and cons of having a four legged friend over fried mac and cheese bites and ravioli. The conversation revolved mostly around the amount of poop we would be exposed to (a very important topic for discussion), in addition to sacrifices we would need to make in terms of traveling north to visit our families. We jotted down our notes on a piece of paper and decided that yes, at this point we wanted a dog, but that we needed to take a week to think about it in more detail.
Our plan was a great plan: address our pros and cons and how we’ll deal with each, then go on our cruise in October and decide if it was still something we were interested in after returning. After our cruise, we would start seriously looking for dogs and start the adoption process. Things were playing out great until we found ourselves Google searching puppies everyday (seriously, who writes those sad stories on the bio pages?) and picking favorites.
While sitting in the living room Saturday discussing dogs with John’s parents, John piped in and said something along the lines of “hey, isn’t there an adoption event at Petsmart today?” He barely had time to call Petsmart and confirm before we were all piling in the car to go “look.” In other words, we threw all of our rational thinking out the window and finally succumbed to all of those puppy faces we’d seen on the internet. After returning home (miraculously, without a dog) we immediately got back to surfing the internet for adoptable dogs nearby. It was only a few hours before we had submitted an adoption application for a 5 ½ month old Shepherd mix named Basil. We heard back within an hour and were urged to come to the rescue group’s adoption event this upcoming Saturday to meet Basil as well as a few other dogs we saw online.
Anticipating the upcoming weekend and the possibility that we may soon have a new and furry member of the household, I got to thinking about the whole thing. While we are both beyond excited to adopt a dog and give it a loving home together, what excites me most is the journey John and I are about to begin in our relationship. While I know that adopting a dog could very well change our relationship even more than moving in together did, and that sleepless nights and added strain on our relationship are possible and likely, I can’t wait to “grow” our family and allow our relationship to grow even more.