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Life through my Lens #2


The past few weeks have totally flown by, and I can’t believe it’s almost March already. I’ve had plenty of things to keep me busy, from seeing my favorite band Muse live in concert in Tampa, to having a romantic candlelit Valentine’s Day dinner at home. All of the moments captured in the pictures above are great reminders of how beautiful and wonderful life can be. Sometimes all it takes to put a smile on my face is some beautiful sunlight or a kiss on the cheek from the man I love so much. I’m learning to pick up on these things and appreciate them much more, especially when I’m having a rough day. I’m hoping that I can look back on these posts someday and remember all of the great things that were going on in my life at that time, both big and small.

What’s been going on in your corner of the world?

Take it from a twenty-something: Your parents are more like you than you think


About a week ago, a friend posted on my Facebook page with a blog post idea. She pointed out how interesting it is to see how our relationship with our parents changes as we get older. Truthfully, this is a post I’ve been thinking of writing for a while because it is one of the biggest changes that has taken place in my transition to adulthood. Although I have always been close with my family, the dynamics of our relationship has changed so much as I’ve started growing up.

When I was in middle school I wanted nothing to do with my parents. We all went through that phase…teenage rebellion, despising our parents, wanting to be out of the house 24/7…but what I have realized as I’ve gotten older is just how much my parents are like me. They have finances to manage, jobs to maintain, relationships to work at, and on top of that they have my sister and I, their kids, to take care of. In truth, my parents and I have a lot more in common than I thought. I think for a lot of us this realization is hard to admit, because there was a point in all of our lives where we thought our parents couldn’t possibly understand us.

The truth is, our parents were twenty-somethings once too. They graduated college, had to find jobs, had relationship troubles and financial struggles too. Everything we’re going through now, our parents have been there done that. As I’ve gotten older and started to understand this, I’ve found that I look at my parents as peers and friends much more than I look at them as mom and dad. And that’s what is so great to me about having a strong relationship with my parents – I get all the benefits of “mom” and “dad” but I have some amazing friends, too.

Mom isn’t just “mom” anymore, she’s also my best friend. I’ve confided in her hundreds of times, and she’s always been there to listen to me. Now, it’s my turn to return the favor. She’s listened to my triumphs and problems my whole life, so of course I owe it to her to give back what she has so graciously offered me. I’ve found it has only made our relationship with each other stronger and more wholesome. What’s even more important is that I’m glad to be that person she can really open up to. I am more open with both of my parents now than I ever have been in my life, and in return they treat me with the same level of openness.

So I leave you with this: not only is it important to make the transition and realize your parents can in fact be your friends, but it’s also vital to focus on forming and maintaining a positive relationship with them. Some of the best advice I’ve gotten has been from my own parents, and hey, they have been through all this twenty-something nonsense after all, so who better to confide in than someone who’s been there before?

What are your views on this? Forever “mom” and “dad,” or are you developing adult friendships with your parents too?

Take it from a twenty-something: You don’t have to have it all figured out

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I’m going to let you all in on a little secret – I’m in my mid twenties and I still don’t know 100% what direction I want my life to go in. Is that a nod I’m hearing? If there’s one thing I’ve learned so far in my twenties, it’s that it is perfectly ok to not have life all figured out as soon as you enter the real world.

The transition from college to adult life was hard, and from previous posts I’ve written on the topic I know that I’m not alone in that feeling. As if choosing a major (aka lifelong career commitment) wasn’t hard enough in high school – try making it all a reality post graduation. But careers are only one piece of the puzzle. What about relationships? Isn’t it easy to feel as though the clock is really ticking once you’ve moved past college flings and realized it’s time to start investing your time in people who are truly worth it? Add to that being surrounded by friends who are suddenly getting married and having babies and you have a serious recipe for some self reflection.

As a twenty something, these are all things that I’ve faced in the mere 3 years I’ve been in my twenties, and I know I still have so many important decisions to make during the next 7 years. And while I’ve tackled some things (like finding a seriously amazing man), I know I still have a lot ahead of me. As a direct result of all of these changes happening around me, and the pressure to make so many important decisions all at once, it’s no surprise that I’ve occasionally wondered if I’m where I should be at age 23. But the more self reflection I do, the more I realize how silly it is to put a time constraint on any of my life’s milestones that I haven’t reached yet.

I finally understand that it is totally OK to have a little mystery in life. Part of the fun of the future is not knowing where it’s going to take you, right? And there’s no sense comparing your life to other’s your age driving yourself crazy thinking you aren’t in the right place, because you are in the right place. No two people are alike, and that’s what makes us all so unique! So here’s to doing things your way, on your time, because in my opinion there’s no time limit on finding what makes you happiest in life.

What are your thoughts on this? Have you struggled with feeling like you have to complete certain life milestones by a certain age? Let’s chat about this – leave your thoughts in a comment below!

Life through my lens

In an attempt to add more “photography” to my blog I want to introduce a new weekly series where I’ll post some of my favorite instagrams and/or pictures from daily life. I’m hoping to get my camera out more than my phone, but for this week here are some of my favorite instagrams as of lately:

1. Bally and I have very different ideas about what working from home means!
2. Bally and her boyfriend, Brutus at the dog park
3. One of my favorite pairs of flats – on sale here!
4. The first time I have painted my nails in a long time – I’m loving gold polish right now
5. Chicken enchiladas for dinner – this Rachael Ray recipe never lets me down
6. The results of a major wardrobe purge – half my clothes gone (don’t worry, I bought some new things)

What fun things have you been capturing this week on IG? If you’re not already, find and follow me here 🙂

Take it from a twenty-something: Careers don’t happen overnight


In my introduction to this series, I mentioned how the reality of my twenties didn’t quite match up to my glamorized expectations. After a lifetime of going from year to year with little responsibilities outside of a part time job, keeping my living space sanitary and turning in my assignments on time, I guess you could say adulthood was a bit of a shocker. I did the life after college scramble, frantically trying to figure out how I was going to afford the lifestyle I was living without the blessing of my monthly student loan check (which, I might add, immediately turned to a curse post-college). Most importantly, I needed to find a job.

Most of you who have been reading this blog since it first started know that my passion in life is photography. You also know that I’ve come clean on the fact that I haven’t yet pursued it as my career and have instead been bouncing from corporate job to corporate job. For a long time, I thought this meant that I was a failure. I felt like I had let down a lot of the people in my life that supported my pursuit of art because I wasn’t actively working in the field. It turns out I was looking at everything backwards and that’s something I wish I had learned sooner.

I’ve always had a problem being stuck in the “big picture” instead of being able to break things down into small steps. I expected to graduate college and jump right into my field with a full time photography position. Instead I ended up taking a full time corporate job in merchandising which paid the bills but definitely didn’t make me happy. I now understand how valuable that job really was. Everyday I came to work with an inbox overflowing with emails, yet I was able to complete my mile long to do list everyday because from that position I learned time management. I gained experience leading a team, and working as part of one, which is something I may or may not have been able to learn as a photographer running my own business. When I moved to Florida I obtained a position in Marketing (which I am still at now) and through this job I have learned how to market small businesses through a variety of platforms. Because of this job, I now have an incredible skill set that will enable me to market myself.

I remember a conversation with my grandma not too long ago in which she described a career as a process. As a result of the time spent not making a living off of my photography, I have actually gained important skills that will assist me in running a much more successful photography business. Sure, those jobs may not have anything to do with photography, but they have all taught me something that I can bring into my own business.

It’s finally clicked for me that big things, like careers, simply don’t happen overnight. A successful career takes a lot of time, dedication, and patience and we may have to go through several jobs that we don’t like to end up with one we love. Like I’ve mentioned in previous posts, taking jobs that don’t relate to your field don’t make you a failure. There’s something to be learned at even the most mundane office job.

How have the jobs you’ve had since college helped you work towards your ultimate career goals?