Take it from a twenty-something: Your parents are more like you than you think


About a week ago, a friend posted on my Facebook page with a blog post idea. She pointed out how interesting it is to see how our relationship with our parents changes as we get older. Truthfully, this is a post I’ve been thinking of writing for a while because it is one of the biggest changes that has taken place in my transition to adulthood. Although I have always been close with my family, the dynamics of our relationship has changed so much as I’ve started growing up.

When I was in middle school I wanted nothing to do with my parents. We all went through that phase…teenage rebellion, despising our parents, wanting to be out of the house 24/7…but what I have realized as I’ve gotten older is just how much my parents are like me. They have finances to manage, jobs to maintain, relationships to work at, and on top of that they have my sister and I, their kids, to take care of. In truth, my parents and I have a lot more in common than I thought. I think for a lot of us this realization is hard to admit, because there was a point in all of our lives where we thought our parents couldn’t possibly understand us.

The truth is, our parents were twenty-somethings once too. They graduated college, had to find jobs, had relationship troubles and financial struggles too. Everything we’re going through now, our parents have been there done that. As I’ve gotten older and started to understand this, I’ve found that I look at my parents as peers and friends much more than I look at them as mom and dad. And that’s what is so great to me about having a strong relationship with my parents – I get all the benefits of “mom” and “dad” but I have some amazing friends, too.

Mom isn’t just “mom” anymore, she’s also my best friend. I’ve confided in her hundreds of times, and she’s always been there to listen to me. Now, it’s my turn to return the favor. She’s listened to my triumphs and problems my whole life, so of course I owe it to her to give back what she has so graciously offered me. I’ve found it has only made our relationship with each other stronger and more wholesome. What’s even more important is that I’m glad to be that person she can really open up to. I am more open with both of my parents now than I ever have been in my life, and in return they treat me with the same level of openness.

So I leave you with this: not only is it important to make the transition and realize your parents can in fact be your friends, but it’s also vital to focus on forming and maintaining a positive relationship with them. Some of the best advice I’ve gotten has been from my own parents, and hey, they have been through all this twenty-something nonsense after all, so who better to confide in than someone who’s been there before?

What are your views on this? Forever “mom” and “dad,” or are you developing adult friendships with your parents too?

Current obsession: Lilac

Sephora by OPI Nail Polish // Gap 1969 always skinny skimmer jeans // Forever 21 Belted Satin Shirtdress // Jeweliq Candy Bubbles Drop Earrings // Jeweliq Lavender Princess Necklace // ModCloth Party With Your Peeps Dress // ModCloth I Lilac It Like That Bag

If there is one trend I am super excited about for Spring it’s pastels, especially lilac. I’ve already invested in a lilac top and can’t wait to add more to my collection. This color is everywhere right now making it easy to find affordable pieces to fit anyone’s budget.

How to wear it: If you’re a little afraid of rocking a spring color while the weather is still cool, add lilac to your wardrobe by investing in accessories. Earrings, necklaces and bags are all a great way to add a little color to a drab winter wardrobe (check out this great bracelet too). If you’re ready to rock spring colors now, pick up some colored skinnies (also available at Forever 21 for $24.80 here) then throw on a collared shirt and a neutral sweater to complete your look! Lastly, if you’re looking for something that will transition well from winter to spring, invest in a lilac dress. A lightweight, long sleeve shirt dress will work perfectly for the office and a night out and you can add tights underneath for extra warmth.

What spring trends are you most excited for?

5 Movie Inspired Valentine’s Date ideas (that won’t make you go broke)

Happy Valentine’s Day! From the time I was in elementary school setting out my decorated shoebox to collect valentines from classmates to last years romantic steakhouse date with my love, I’ve always been a fan of this holiday. I know there are people out there who will argue that it’s a hallmark holiday, or that you should celebrate the love you have with your significant other everyday, but to me there’s something fun about having an entire day dedicated to celebrating love. In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it can sometimes be easy to put romance on the backburner, so Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to remind all the special people in your life how much they mean to you.

One of my favorite bloggers, Alyssa, recently put together a super clever post about love lessons to be learned from 90s movies, and it inspired me to put together a budget friendly list of date night ideas inspired by dates in movies. While going out to a fancy restaurant is nice, why not mix things up a bit this year and opt for something a little different?

Sex-City-Carrie-Big_3201. Stay in and cook together. As a girl, getting dressed up to go on a date is one of my favorite things, but just because you aren’t going to a fancy restaurant this year doesn’t mean you can’t dress to the nines! Plan a full course meal to cook at home with your boyfriend/girlfriend, put on your favorite LBD and get to cooking! Set the mood with some music and candles – who needs that fancy restaurant anyway? Thanks Carrie and Big from SATC for the inspiration!

2003_elf_0042. Explore what your city has to offer. One of my favorite date scenes is when Will Ferrell “Buddy” and Zooey Deschanel “Jovie” go on their first date in the movie Elf. From tasting the “world’s best cup of coffee” to ice skating, window shopping and running through revolving doors their first date is all about exploring and having fun together. Challenge yourself to discover great things to do together in your city that won’t cost you a penny.

The-Notebook-the-notebook-11010713-700-4643. Be spontaneous (and dance like nobody’s watching). It isn’t fair to talk about Valentine’s Day and romantic movies without mentioning The Notebook – so grab your man, head to the nearest intersection and dance like nobody’s watching. Sometimes the most memorable moments of a date are the ones you weren’t expecting at all.

becauseisaidso4. Have a good old fashioned movie night. Grab some popcorn, cozy up on the couch and watch that movie you’ve both been dying to see but haven’t had the time to rent. Restaurants are always packed on Valentine’s Day so why not avoid the crowds and relax together? Hopefully you won’t come down with a cold and lose your voice like Diane Keaton in Because I Said So.

thevow_firstdate5. Relive your first date together. Ok- so The Vow totally depressed me – but the scene where Channing Tatum took Rachel McAdams on their first date all over again to help her remember their relationship was totally adorable. Depending on what your first date actually was, this may cost you a little money, but it will be totally worth it when those first date jitters and memories come flooding back to you!

Your turn! What fun ideas do you have for a low cost date night? John and I will be doing #1 – we picked up some steaks and are cooking dinner together (and dressing up of course). Can’t wait to hear your ideas!

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Take it from a twenty-something: You don’t have to have it all figured out

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I’m going to let you all in on a little secret – I’m in my mid twenties and I still don’t know 100% what direction I want my life to go in. Is that a nod I’m hearing? If there’s one thing I’ve learned so far in my twenties, it’s that it is perfectly ok to not have life all figured out as soon as you enter the real world.

The transition from college to adult life was hard, and from previous posts I’ve written on the topic I know that I’m not alone in that feeling. As if choosing a major (aka lifelong career commitment) wasn’t hard enough in high school – try making it all a reality post graduation. But careers are only one piece of the puzzle. What about relationships? Isn’t it easy to feel as though the clock is really ticking once you’ve moved past college flings and realized it’s time to start investing your time in people who are truly worth it? Add to that being surrounded by friends who are suddenly getting married and having babies and you have a serious recipe for some self reflection.

As a twenty something, these are all things that I’ve faced in the mere 3 years I’ve been in my twenties, and I know I still have so many important decisions to make during the next 7 years. And while I’ve tackled some things (like finding a seriously amazing man), I know I still have a lot ahead of me. As a direct result of all of these changes happening around me, and the pressure to make so many important decisions all at once, it’s no surprise that I’ve occasionally wondered if I’m where I should be at age 23. But the more self reflection I do, the more I realize how silly it is to put a time constraint on any of my life’s milestones that I haven’t reached yet.

I finally understand that it is totally OK to have a little mystery in life. Part of the fun of the future is not knowing where it’s going to take you, right? And there’s no sense comparing your life to other’s your age driving yourself crazy thinking you aren’t in the right place, because you are in the right place. No two people are alike, and that’s what makes us all so unique! So here’s to doing things your way, on your time, because in my opinion there’s no time limit on finding what makes you happiest in life.

What are your thoughts on this? Have you struggled with feeling like you have to complete certain life milestones by a certain age? Let’s chat about this – leave your thoughts in a comment below!

Life through my lens

In an attempt to add more “photography” to my blog I want to introduce a new weekly series where I’ll post some of my favorite instagrams and/or pictures from daily life. I’m hoping to get my camera out more than my phone, but for this week here are some of my favorite instagrams as of lately:

1. Bally and I have very different ideas about what working from home means!
2. Bally and her boyfriend, Brutus at the dog park
3. One of my favorite pairs of flats – on sale here!
4. The first time I have painted my nails in a long time – I’m loving gold polish right now
5. Chicken enchiladas for dinner – this Rachael Ray recipe never lets me down
6. The results of a major wardrobe purge – half my clothes gone (don’t worry, I bought some new things)

What fun things have you been capturing this week on IG? If you’re not already, find and follow me here :)